Tyler, I also feel better physically the less I weigh. However, a big part of my previous therapy was letting go of the moral obligation to eat right, to be healthy, to weigh less. It's easier to let go of all the worrying about weight when I don't worry about being a burden on society if I should get diabetes and need medical care, and to have that worry every time I think about eating a friggin pancake. No I am not exaggerating.
Life is so much more pleasant -- no matter what weight I am -- when I don't attach a "you should" or "you shouldn't" to every activity associated with eating. If I eat healthy foods and feel good, it's ok. If I don't, it's ok, too. I don't have to send myself to hell.
Not a real scientific sample, but my personal experience supports Julia's assertion about the getting laid bit. I've had attention from *different* people but no change in numbers depending on my weight, and as an adult I've been as much as 25 pounds lighter and 47 pounds heavier than I am now. At my fattest, though, I had joint pain which made some activity not as enjoyable or not as possible. The thing is, though, dealing with it on the practical level without ascribing a moral imperative to food & health & weight.
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Date: 2011-08-07 02:38 am (UTC)Life is so much more pleasant -- no matter what weight I am -- when I don't attach a "you should" or "you shouldn't" to every activity associated with eating. If I eat healthy foods and feel good, it's ok. If I don't, it's ok, too. I don't have to send myself to hell.
Not a real scientific sample, but my personal experience supports Julia's assertion about the getting laid bit. I've had attention from *different* people but no change in numbers depending on my weight, and as an adult I've been as much as 25 pounds lighter and 47 pounds heavier than I am now. At my fattest, though, I had joint pain which made some activity not as enjoyable or not as possible. The thing is, though, dealing with it on the practical level without ascribing a moral imperative to food & health & weight.