fat 'n' happy

[jedusor]

Man, you know what just doesn't make any damn sense at all? Worrying about weight. We're all just organisms, right, and we're all made of cells, and for some weird reason a whole bunch of people have decided that they have too many of this one kind of energy-storing cell and they need to make it go away or they're somehow not good enough. And okay, yeah, there's a weight range that is healthy and going too far above or below it can cause problems, but that range is a lot wider than people seem to think. And you know what actually is shown to have deleterious effects on your health? All that fucking worrying.

And I get that everyone wants to be attractive, and life is in great part about getting laid, but here's the thing: fat people get laid too. I know plenty of fat people who have happy, healthy sex lives, and I know plenty of skinny people who don't. You know whose sex lives suck? People who worry about their damn weight.

(And don't tell me fat people worry about their weight more. I have known way too many skinny people to fall for that shit.)

Comments

[jedusor.livejournal.com]

Yeah, this is more me saying "I don't get this psychological phenomenon" than trying to be helpful. Obviously if it were easy to fix, someone would already have fixed it. There's a reason I'm a scientist, not a counselor.

I do apologize if expressing my frustration like this is actively counterproductive for you or anyone else. I forget sometimes that not everyone thinks in terms of phenomena.

[zarathuse.livejournal.com]

no harm done. your attitude just reminds me of a lot of well-intentioned but ultimately hurtful "help" i encountered before i got myself legitimate professional help. like you said, though, you're trying to look at this logically, not constructively.

[jedusor.livejournal.com]

Well, not constructively in terms of communicating to people experiencing the phenomenon. Possibly constructively in terms of developing my own perspective on evolutionary psychology and identity. I can be astonishingly selfish when it comes to understanding the world. :/